How to Always Look Put Together: Personal Care
Updated: Dec 21, 2020
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The key to Always Looking Expensive
We all know that ONE person. That ONE person who, no matter how cheap their outfit, they always manage to look expensive.
They look like it took them a full 3 hours to get ready, yet they've somehow managed to also make it look effortless.
Well, her secret was quite simple... she always looked put together.
Looking put together, makes you look elegant, expensive, and successful. It makes you look like you have mastered the art of taking care of yourself and how you present yourself to the world.
What does it mean to look put together? After reading countless articles on this, I've realized it just comes down to embodying 5 main things:
Impeccable Self Care
Attention to Detail
Organized and Balanced Life
... I'm already exhausted.
But there is a secret to easily embodying everything on this list, a rule I live my life by:
Keep it easy to maintain.
Maintaining is the ultimate key to looking put-together. I based this entire website on this philosophy. I hope you find something of value in my guides and honestly hope to engage with you in your long journey of self-curation because anything worth learning to better yourself will take time and effort.
What if it's impossible for you to do everything I recommend?
That's ok! changing a few little things can add up and have a dramatic effect on your overall appearance and confidence. So try one or try all, because any change you make for yourself is a change worth making.
I've split my master list into 5 posts that I update with new ideas as I continue my own journey.
01. Opt for natural, neutral or nude nails and toenails
Keep your nails clean and filed. If you have the time to go to the nail salon every two weeks for a professional quality manicure and pedicure, then, by all means, go crazy with your nail colors.
The general rule here is: Keep things maintainable because the only thing worse than un-manicured nails is noticeably overgrown and chipped nail polish.
If you lead a busy life and can't keep up with salon appointments, keep them nude, clear, or as close to your natural nail tone as possible.
Because that line between the nail polish and the new nail growth will not be noticeable and neither will chips in the polish. This extends the life of your manicure and helps your hands LOOK taken care of even when they're not.
Links to my favorite Nearly Nude Nail Polishes for extra-long lasting Manicures:
02. Moisturize your feet while you sleep
You can have the most luxurious sandals on the planet but if your feet are dry, crusty, and dirty you will still look sloppy and cheap.
The solution is to keep your nail salon appointments, but if you can't, follow this routine once a month:
Wash your feet with soap and lukewarm water or soak your feet for 30 minutes.
Clean, trim, and file your nails if needed.
Rub your heels with a pumice stone if needed on dry or rough areas.
Apply a cream moisturizer like Dionis Sole Keeper on the dry areas. (Never between your toes)
Apply petroleum jelly (Vaseline) to the same dry patches. (This seals the moisture in)
Put on a clean pair of socks and leave them on overnight.
Rinse your feet the next morning if there is any residual stickiness.
Paint your nails using a nude, clear, or neutral polish.
This routine will help you keep your feet moisturized and looking good without having to go to the nail salon.
03. Tame your flyaways, edges, and baby hairs
No matter what your hair type. We all have them. Take extra care of them, treat them gently, and avoid razoring them. This only brings bumpy skin, acne, uneven edges, and regret.
Why are they so important?
These frame your face so taking care of these will make it look like your hair is done up, even when it's not.
A simple ponytail with a thousand flyaways will look casual.
A simple ponytail with no flyaways looks sleek.
Master your edges and your hair will always look polished and elegant.
Links to noteworthy affordable products to tame your mane:
Related: Elevate your hair in 10 steps
04. Keep your hair close to your natural shade
The easiest way to keep your hair color fresh and not have to worry about colorist appointments is keeping it natural.
But if you really don't like your natural hair color try these long-lasting - low maintenance options;
Balayage - When done RIGHT you can have them for months before you have to go in for a touch-up, just try to keep these close to your natural hair color to avoid a streaky appearance.
Ombre - As your roots grow they will just be adding to the ombre effect meaning you'll just end up cutting off the bleached or colored parts of your hair.
Color depositing shampoos and conditioners - like John Frieda's color depositing line. It doesn't get any easier than this.
Gloss - Basically lip gloss for your hair. A hair treatment that gives your hair color a boost in shine and hydration.
04. Tweeze every day
I've made a habit of tweezing my eyebrows every day. I keep my tweezers next to my facewash, so every day after I wash my face I tweeze the area below my eyebrows and unibrow. I definitely don't shape them, I just clean them.
While you're at it invest in Good Tweezers, the only tweezers that grab ALL of my hairs, even the tiny ones.
05. Sweat Stains are NOT your friend
If you're a sweaty betty you know that underarm sweat stains (aka pit stains) can ruin your entire outfit and make you feel extremely self-conscious and uncomfortable.
Nowadays, there are SO many solutions for hyperhidrosis you don't have to live with embarrassing wet armpits.
Check out my post on Sweat Solutions for a more comprehensive guide on antiperspirants, prescriptions, and procedures you can get to reduce underarm sweat.
Related: Your Guide to Elegant Hair
06. Cleanliness is next to Godliness
This goes for your hair, your body, your teeth, your home, your makeup brushes... I can keep going...
The way you care for yourself speaks volumes on how you feel about yourself and we've already covered self-love here. Nowadays, there is no excuse for oily grungy-looking hair.
"But I can't wash my hair every day!"
You don't have to wash your hair every single day, It's 2020 and we have options available to us that keep our hair fresh and cleaner for longer!
Hair is oily? Dry Shampoo
Scalp is dry? Scalp treatment
"But I don't have time to wash my hair!"
YES. YOU. DO. *Insert clap emojis*
07. Visit your Dentist
Your smile is your BEST feature. All you need to do to look ten times better than you do right now is SMILE. That being said you need to take care of that smile.
So make time and see your Dentist, address your concerns, and get the smile you've always wanted.
08. Visit your Dermatologist
We have a bad habit of just trusting what other people have to say about products. Keep in mind that the $80 product they're recommending may work wonders for them but won't necessarily work for you.
So why not splurge and get a custom recommendation based on your specific needs by a licensed professional in that field?
I thank my Dermatologist for getting me out of over-spending on beauty products. Finding the RIGHT Dermatologist is everything. Just like making friends, it's very important to feel comfortable discussing your concerns and insecurities with your Dermatologist.
A good Dermatologist can also help you save money by recommending specific OTC brands that work and by prescribing certain medications so you don't have to get them from Sephora like retinols.
If you can't visit your Derm, follow an expert on Instagram, like @ShereeneIdriss; A Board Certified Dermatologist who gives educated skincare advice on Instagram.
09. Fill in your hairline
A quick and easy way to elevate your look is to fill in the gaps in your hairline. These are a little more noticeable if you have light skin and dark hair. Use dark eyeshadow to slightly make those gaps darker. Your face will look more symmetrical and your hairline will look sleeker.
I'm sure you've been scolded before but Stand up straight and carry yourself with confidence.
Bettering your posture is not only great for your back but it can even make you look taller, slimmer, and make double chins less noticeable. So make an effort and work on that posture.
If you find you are struggling with keeping your posture using a posture brace can help you further develop this habit.
Check out our How to look taller series for more tips!
11. Master your Everyday Make-up
If you struggle with doing your everyday makeup or think you don't have enough time to do it in the mornings. Take a step back and simplify your makeup routine.
Organize your everyday cosmetics: keep them accessible so you can get ready at a moment's notice.
Choose a focal point: If you're going heavy on your eyes keep your lips simple and vice versa.
Work with your undertone: Choose colors that will complement your undertone for an effortless look. Don't know your undertone? Find out here.
You're more likely to ALWAYS do your makeup if it's quick and easy to do.
12. Have a Signature Scent
Having a signature scent and making sure you always smell good is one of the most important details in your journey to always looking put together.
Scent adds that touch of femininity to your look even if you're not wearing anything particularly feminine.
13. Be kind to the Earth
Keep it sustainable when you can. That, in turn, takes care of your wallet. Most recently I swapped cotton rounds and cotton balls for re-useable, machine-washable micro-fiber facial towels. This will save me time and money, in the long run, leaving my hard-earned cash for more important splurges.
14. Choose a Haircut that's compatible with Your Hair Type
I once made the mistake of getting a LOB (long bob) with bangs. I have very frizzy and textured hair so my LOB turned into a mushroom cap.
I don't think I have ever regretted something MORE in my entire life.
So work with your hair type! If you know you're not going to get up and put time and effort into styling your hair then opt for haircuts that work with your natural texture.
The takeaway from all of these? Keep it simple, Keep it easy and you will always look your best!
Continue reading How to look put together Chapter II: Undergarments
I hope this starts you off on the path to always looking good and boosting your confidence!
Have a tip to add to this list?
Let me know below!